NEW year. NEW life....

How has your life been todate?  Has it been according to your expectations? Better or worse? If you were offered the opportunity to have life the way your would really want it, would you take it?  Or are you just going to repeat what it has been. I offer you the opportunity to leap out of your old box. Cast off what does not work for you and fully embrace what does. Right now give yourself  30 minutes with no interruptions, no phone calls or emails. Shut off your outer world and take the steps to fully claim your new life. Step 1.    Sit or stand up straight and out loud say "I take full responsibility for my life and everything in it." And say it with real conviction. Fully feel  you are fully in charge and know that you are. Doing this will put you in the drivers seat and move you from being the victim of life to being in charge. The former sets you free.The latter imprisons you and turns you into both the jailer and the jailed. Step 2.     List down what has NOT been working in your life.Know that each dysfunction is rich in learning. Ask yourself, "what did I learn about myself from each dysfunction?" What did I learn about my beliefs, my attitudes, my limitations, my strengths, the way I treat myself, the way I treat others........?  Write what you have learnt beside the dysfunctions. Step  3   Now turn the dysfunctions into your ideal outcomes. What would have been the ideal outcome for what did not work or did not meet your expectations? Write these down. Step 4.    What beliefs, attitudes, thoughts and actions that you leant from step 2 that are most likely to produce what you wish to experience?  Write these down and practice them until they become ingrained habits. Go overboard with your practice and use every opportunity to use them.  Yes, make MASSIVE changes. The bigger, the better and faster the results. For example, if a dysfunction was that you were not shown respect, your learning may have been you do not respect others and, quite likely, you do not respect yourself enough. Your new attitude may be "I fully respect myself. I fully respect others". Now practice this new attitude with every relationship no matter how short or long it is If you are at the check-out at the supermarket say to yourself as you look at the cashier "I fully respect you" Show this in your manner...by your smile; your eye contact; your expression of appreciation.  Now closely observe the reactions. Are you now receiving more positive responses from others? Are you receiving more respect?  I bet you are. I know you are! Step 5.  Now decide that 2009 will be your best year yet.  Write down what you wish to create and experience this year and the beliefs, attitudes, thoughts and actions you will use to make it happen just the way you want it. 2009 is your year.  It's a new year so why not enjoy a new life and make it your best year yet. When 2010  comes, make that even better. Once you have done this, blog me and tell me and at any time this year you have a question about making 2009 your best year, send it to me and, if I have the time, I will do my best to answer it. Better still, send me your "success stories" about what worked.